My Orycon 39 Schedule

Hello, my friends!

I know I haven’t posted in a while.  I am going to get back to it as soon as my life settles a bit.

Meanwhile, here is my schedule:


Fri Nov 17 4:00pm Pettygrove
Enjoying Your First Con
Haven’t been here before? Learn some tips for having a good time.
Fri Nov 17 5:00pm White Stag
Writing and Art for the RPG Industry
A how-to workshop on what it is like to work for the RPG industry.
Fri Nov 17 7:00pm White Stag
Limits of Inclusivity
In fandom we try to be inclusive, but some behaviors do not deserve to be included. How can we promote a welcoming con culture without making someone feel unwelcome?
Fri Nov 17 8:00pm White Stag
Putting the Play Back into Role-playing
Gaming should be more than button mashing or dice rolling, shouldn’t it?
Fri Nov 17 9:00pm  Lion Kings Den – 266
Flirting 101
Expert advice for those looking to improve their interpersonal skills.
Sat Nov 18 12:00pm White Stag
Gender and Gaming
How to play with friends of all genders, regardless of your own. What are some things to keep in mind when world building. Create experiences that all friends can feel great playing.
Sat Nov 18 5:00pm Lion Kings Den – 266
Creating Convention Policies
What policies does your convention need to help it run smoothly? How do you decide when a policy has been violated and what to do about it?
Sat Nov 18 6:00pm Lion Kings Den – 266
Crossover Fandom
Have you attended a gaming convention? How about a mystery convention? Come and learn about other fandoms in the area.
Sat Nov 18 9:00pm Lion Kings Den – 266
Flirting 102
Advanced expert advice for those looking to improve their interpersonal skills.
Sun Nov 19 12:00pm White Stag
Going to a Game Con
What’s different from showing up at OryCon and plonking yourself in the game room.




5 Minute Mirror -BOAW Original 

About 5 years ago, I started renovating my in laws house for my husband, my roommate and myself to all move into.  (I did NOT do this alone…. I was helping the general contractor). It was a cool project, and I wanted to have a hand in it so I knew how to fix things when they went wrong.

I was living in a house that had small mirrors… and going into a house that had mirrored closet doors in the master bedroom… mirrored closet doors.  4 7 foot tall doors, mirrored, in the room I was going to sleep in.

4 of these doors.  My room is a bit of a mess


The main bathroom had ginormous mirrors as well, and a mirrored wall (made of mirrored tiles).

Okay… so my house is a bit of a mess.

That’s a fuck-load of mirrors for a fat woman to be looking at herself in.

We renovated the “master bathroom” (a half bath)… and put two mirrored cabinets, and a giant round mirror on the wall.  When you open one of the cabinets, BAM, two more mirrors.  I have a lot of mirrors.  I like mirrors, I like the way they look.  Two of my smaller mirrors are from my parents.

From my mum.


From my step dad

The reason I bring this up, is because 5 years ago, as I was going back to the room (we were renovating the “weight room” into an office), I slowly noticed how my shirts began getting loose. I could actually wear my 3x shirts!

Then, disaster, I had a gall stone the size of my thumb, and the surgery didn’t go so well… and I was on my ass in a LaZboy for 5 weeks, weight back on.

When we moved in, I couldn’t get away from the mirrors.  The big one in the bathroom was in front of the shower… and the mirrored closet was on my side of the bed.  So, I decided that it was important I no longer cast my eyes away from my body.  I was alright with my face, but my body… that was another story.  I decided to start sitting on the bed, in just my underwear (no bra) staring at myself.  Getting to know myself.  (I chose to do it by just observing, some people get more “hands on”.)

It was really hard.

I mean, really REALLY hard.  I started looking at my imperfections.  My boobs aren’t the same size, one hangs lower, my belly hangs over, and not evenly.  My legs are veiny, my knees are weird, what the fuck is THAT???

I started at 2 minutes… I wasn’t allowed to take my eyes off my body for 2 minutes.  Every couple weeks it got longer.  It got to 5 minutes, and a little longer, and I quit seeing the imperfections as imperfections.  I started seeing them as me.  Me.  As in I am beautiful.  I am fat, have my long face days, but I am beautiful.

I see a small divet where my waist is supposed to be.  I used to bemoan the fact that I went from an hour glass to a keg shape… but there is a divet!  I have a waist! Yeah, my boobs are still uneven, my belly still hangs over unevenly, and my legs are still veiny, and I’m still not sure what the fuck THAT is… but, I love everything about me.  Including my backside.  Not just my bum.  Yeah, it could be smaller, or more pert (oh, hell, EVERYTHING could be more “pert”… but I’m not 20 anymore).  As I wrote in an earlier blog… I even like my stretch marks.

It’s still at about 5 minutes a day, when I wake up or before I go to sleep, or when I’m about to get into the shower…  I think I’m beautiful now.  I really do, and I think it really loud.

Maybe someday I’ll actually say it.


Beauty of a Woman BlogFest VI

This post is part of the Beauty of a Woman BlogFest VI! To read more entries, and potentially win a fun prize, visit the fest page on August’s McLaughlin’s site between today and 11pm PST March 11th.

My Panel Schedule for Radcon 7A

I’m speaking at Radcon 7A (February 17 – 19, 2017)!!!

I know, I know… a little close to be posting it, but… here it is!

Time Room Panel
Fri Feb 17 5:45:pm 2205 Historical Fantasy
Hennig, Jeanine Hill, Laurel Anne Rhys-Jones, Gibbitt Vanessa MacLellan Historical fantasy is set in real historical time that incorporates fantastic elements (such as magic) into the narrative. Jonathan Strange & Mr Norrell, the Historian, Outlander, Abraham Lincoln Vampire Hunter are just a few examples. Let’s talk Historical fantasy. How accurate does the history have to be? How much fantasy elements does it need? Any favorites?
Fri Feb 17 8:15:pm Harvest Makeup fx on the cheap
Briggs, Laura Calkins, Amy Langdell, Jess Mclean, Adam Rhys-Jones, Gibbitt  Got a passion for makeup or just want a cool costume? Don’t have the money for ALL the makeups? Relax, come listen to some awesome people tell and show you how to reuse your everyday makeup as show makeup.
Fri Feb 17 9:30:pm 2209 Understanding the SF Alternative communities
Excell, Tamra Flesher, Luna Jackson, Craig Rhys-Jones, Gibbitt  What do the group marriage NEST in Stranger in a Strange Land, the Multi Generational Line Marriage in Moon is a Harsh Mistress and Lazarus Long’s family in Time Enough for Love, all have in common? Relationships that are not just one man and one woman – that’s what! Come sit down in this round table environment and talk about the different lifestyles that interest you.
Sat Feb 18 12:45:pm 2209 Women and LGBTQA in Gaming
Caille, Jensen Caldwell, Synthia Olin, Kirsten Quinn, Sara Rhys-Jones, Gibbitt  Women and the LGBTQA community are a growing force in the gaming world. Come discuss how to get involved as a woman or LGBTQA, challenges we face and solutions for those tough situations.
Sat Feb 18 2:00:pm 2201 Research, not just for scholars anymore
Guizzetti, Elizabeth Hennig, Jeanine McCaffrey, Todd Rhys-Jones, Gibbitt Townsend, S. Evan It used to be that research was only available in libraries, but now, with the internet, you should not have inconsistencies with your books. Why do some authors do research and others not?
Sat Feb 18 5:45:pm 2201 Editing: the toughest part of writing
Clegg, Jaleta Kolva, Sanan Reynolds-Ward, Joyce Rhys-Jones, Gibbitt Taylor, Bruce Editing. You have the editors, and you have the writer… how do you make both happy?
Sat Feb 18 7:00:pm 2201 Writer’s workshop
Hill, Laurel Anne Johnson, Judy Jones, Peter Rhys-Jones, Gibbitt Wilmerding, Elizabeth Submit the first 10 pages of your novel or a short story (approx. 8000 words) or 3 flash fiction (approx. 500-1000 words) pieces to a panel of previously published writers or editors. We will read your work and provide constructive comments to help you move forward. Space limit: 10
Sat Feb 18 9:30:pm Harvest Poly Hangout
Excell, Tamra, Jackson, Craig Loomis, Cassandra Martin, Barbara Olin, Kirsten Rhys-Jones, Gibbitt Wiley, Kevin Polyamory support and hangout. Meet some real poly people in an open hang out. First half hour will be discussing what poly is, the rest of the time will be mingling and talking to people who are poly and discovering what it is about.
Sun Feb 19 10:15:am 2207 Writing furry.
Armstrong, Gene Caille, Jensen Pauli, Frances Rhys-Jones, Gibbitt  Writing the anthromorphs back into your stories.
Sun Feb 19 11:30:am 2201 Writing with Dyslexia
Bennett, Jeanette Jones, Esther Jones, Peter Rhys-Jones, Gibbitt Rounds, Mark Dyslexic Writer is not the incongruous oxymoron it sounds like. We will discuss tricks to help you with your short comings as well as how to best use your creative gifts.

Hope I see you there! (through all the snow… and ice…and cold…)



My panel schedule at Rustycon 34

Hello!  I am speaking at Rustycon!

Fri Jan 13 3:00:pm Seattle 1 Panelists panel
“Gibbitt” Rhys-Jones Ari Goldstein Gene Armstrong Raven Oak  What do I do on a panel?  What’s a moderator, and how do I do that???  Come to the Panelists’ panel, and hear from experienced panelist who won’t steer you wrong!
Sat Jan 14 5:00:pm Everett The LGBTQ Community in the fandom.
“Gibbitt” Rhys-Jones Amber Clark April Daniels Gene Armstrong  Would it surprise you how big the LGBTQ fandom is.
Sat Jan 14 6:00:pm Renton Understanding the SF Alternative communities
“Gibbitt” Rhys-Jones Mike Birch Richard Gilmore Sheree Robinson  What do the group marriage NEST in Stranger in a Strange Land, the Multi Generational Line Marriage in Moon is a Harsh Mistress and Lazarus Long’s family in Time Enough for Love, all have in common? Relationships that are not just one man and one woman – that’s what! Come sit down in this round table environment and talk about the different lifestyles that interest you.
Sun Jan 15 1:00:pm Tacoma Working with an editor
“Gibbitt” Rhys-Jones Tod McCoy William (Morrigan) Lehman  Whether you are sending stories down what feels like a black hole of unappreciative markets, or struggling with making changes to the novel you’ve been living with night and day for years, writers don’t always know what to make of editors. Editors, at their best, are partners with writers, not adversaries — even though it can sometimes feel that way. Come hear what editors think their job is and what they can do for you.
Sun Jan 15 3:00:pm Snoqualmie  Slugs n Salt
“Gibbitt” Rhys-Jones Lee Fuller Michael J. Kenmir  What were your favorite parts of this years convention?  What can we improve upon?  Please come and let us know!

That’s it.  That’s all I’m scheduled!

I have learned that if you’re Head of ANYTHING on a convention… don’t give yourself too many panels.  I am the Head of Programming for Rustycon, and after 3 conventions, I have learned.

Rustycon ( is a non-profit science fiction/fantasy convention that is by the fans and their love of all things science fiction and fantasy, FOR the fans of the same.


This year’s Guests of Honor are Robin Hobb, Bill Doran, and Michaela Eaves.  We have some SPECTATULAR Pros and panelists, including a last minute one for gamers, Bruce Cordell. A week ago, he said he’d like to come, but only for Saturday!

Please check it out!


Beautiful Mugs! (sales post)

So, I’m very pleased to announce that my husband’s publishing company, Dragondyne Publishing, has a guest artist for mugs.  Artist Gillian Hanington has painted some beautiful mandalas that have been turned into mugs (one of which you have seen one of these holding my coffee), and we signed an agreement with her.  We are selling them for a limited time only!

You must order these by the 10th of December in order to get them by the 23rd.  If you can do pick up, you have till the 15th.

1.    cc00sepiasfinal   CC00SEPIAS (6 mugs) $85+S&H

2.       cc01rsidefinal     CC01R $25+S&H

3.      cc02rfinal       CC02R $25+S&H

4.     cc03rfinal     CC03R $25+S&H

5.    cc04rfinal      CC04R $25+S&H

6.   cc05bfinal      CC05B $25+S&H

7.   cc07rfinal    CC07R $25+S&H

8.  cc08bfinal     CC08B $25+S&H

9.   cc10bfinal      CC10B $25+S&H

10. cc13bfinal  CC13B $25+S&H

11.   cc14bfinal CC14B $25+S&H

12.   cc16rfinal    CC16R $25+S&H

13.   cc17rfinal   CC17R $25+S&H

14.   cc18bfinal   CC18B $25+S&H

Buy 12 of the large cups, get one free!

We are so excited that she has joined us, even for this limited time.  As is she!  She is designing Dragondyne Publishing mugs for us as well!

Email with what you want, and I’ll send you a PayPal receipt.


Been thinking hard about this since the election…(or: As far as I will get into politics right now)


I am a Canadian living in America.  I’ve been in America since I was three.  This is important to remember, because I am about to take you on a long ride.

During the election, I was telling everyone it was their *right*, as protected by the Constitution, to vote whichever way their heart desires.  I still stand by that.  I will stand by that until I breathe my last breath.  (Then I *might* re think it, but I doubt it.)

This is freakin’ AMERICA folks.  I was reading the “news” (Because, really… what is news except something that agrees with your point of view), and saw a phrase that said something like “The land of opportunity, where a shop keep’s kid can grow to be a millionaire” or something like that.  It happened with our president; real-estate mogul to president.

I’m not a fan of Trump, never claimed to be.  Wasn’t a fan of any of them.  I wasn’t going to tell anyone how to vote.  I was not going to through my voice into the pool of useless threats of “If you don’t for x you vote for z” or, inversely, “If you don’t vote for z, you vote for x”.

If the system worked, we might have had Bernie against Trump… if the system worked, some people would not have WANTED to vote 3rd party… BUT… it didn’t.  We had Hillary and Trump.  Two opposites that nobody trusted and everybody had to be weary of.

We’ve had the government, who decides who they want to be in charge, and tries their hardest to make it so.

We’ve had the media (Yes… the media played a BIG part in this), who slanted and yellowed their journalism to the sides they wanted, totally being dickheads and jamming things down our throats.

So, now that the media basically ran the election, and put in someone who has no official political background as president, here comes the post-election talk about leaving (for the 5 time in 20 years Canada’s immigration page crashed.  Want to guess when the other times were?) People are looking at Australia, Ireland, England, and even Mexico.

People are scared.  I have seen reports of Trump supporters threatening minorities and women, but I have also seen video of people beating the CRAP out of Trump supporters, or even people who they *think* *might be* Trump supporters. (Apparently, being white, male, and driving a “gas guzzler” is a crime around here)

People are scared.  NO ONE has the right to tell them to *Get over it*, that they are *over-reacting*, or *ANY* of that bullshit.  If people are scared, people have that right.

I’ve heard Liberals, who were all about gun control previously, threatening to take up arms; Conservatives, who were screaming about THIS election being rigged, suddenly doing an about face and saying “well, this is the democracy in action”.

I’ve seen finger pointing.  A LOT of finger pointing.

Finger pointing at the people who decided to “sit this one out”, pointing at people who decided they just COULD NOT STAND to see either Hillary OR Trump in office and voted third party, at the DNC, the Government. ALL THE FINGER POINTING.


I’m going to say this, and I will once again say it (and will with my dying breath too), America voted.  America chose. By the rules that were set by those before us, America decided it wanted Trump as president.  Saying “He’s not *my* president” is fine… but if the Electoral College votes he is and you are a citizen or live down here, he actually IS your president for 4 years.

2016 election results map

Be scared.  I am not going to tell you that you can’t.  Hell, *I’m* scared.  He is an unknown.  According to everything you’ve watched and heard, he is a sexual predator (MIGHT want to do some research into that, btw… just for your own clarification, and not let the media choose how you’re going to think), he has bankrupted several corporations, he has said he is going to build a wall and ban ALL Muslims, he has insulted at least 282 people, places, and things.

BE SCARED if you are scared.  Then do something (peacefully, of course).  One of the things said to me while I was telling people to vote the way they wanted to, was “The presidential race is NOT the place to be starting that. Do it at a lower level first, work your way up the chain.” Okay.  You’ve seen where the two party system has gotten us up on high… now we have a chance to change it.

A couple people have jokingly said to me, “Oh, well, you’re okay, YOU can just go back to Canada”…  Actually, you’re right.  I can. But I have lived in America since I was three.  I have had all my schooling here, made all my friends (Before this thing called “the internet” was around) down here, married down here… why the HELL would I want to “go home”?  This IS my home. This is my country by choice.  This is what I see…

I see scared people.  I see gloating people.  I see people crashing other countries’ immigration sites.  I see mean people.  I see people so sucked into what the media tells them that they won’t take a shit or talk to their neighbor unless the media says it’s good for them (both are, btw… but not at the same time.)

I have been asked to 4 different protest groups on Facebook.  No, not asked… ADDED.  Every one of them is inciting violence in some form or another.  I bowed out.

  • Didn’t condone it against the last president
  • Won’t condone it against the next, even though I don’t agree with who it is.
  • Or the one after that.
  • Respect the office, if not the person.

If you’re scared, if you’re angry, if you’re hurt… educate yourself on what the constitution actually says. Wake up, educate yourself, and don’t just listen to what our sides’ media tells us.  Do something on that local level people were talking about.


It’s NOT going to be “great” again.  It will never be like it was before this election cycle again.  Like when the gas prices went from 1$ to 4$ in under a year… then crawled down to 3$, and 2$.  Everybody went “Oh, that’s better!”… it wasn’t where it was.  There was no “again” in that.  Or when last year, the HIV druglord went “Oh, I’m going to raise this 5000%!” and there were screams and cries and “don’t you care, you brute?” and he said “haha, just screwing with you, it’s only going to be raised 300%(or something)” and everyone said, with an exhalation of breath “Oh, that’s better”… not the way it was… not better there was no “again” in that.

Which brings me to this:

I’m getting naturalized as soon as I can afford to so that I can BE a part of the change, and not just a passive voice.


Schedule for Orycon 38


Game Mastering: How not to Lose Your Players

  • Fri Nov 18 3:00pm-4:00pm
  • Sunstone (3)
  • Why “Carpe GM” is a dangerous thing to hear.
  • Scott Woodard, Annie Bellet, Gibbitt Rhys-Jones, Peter Wacks

Writing and Art for the RPG Industry

  • Fri Nov 18 6:00pm-7:00pm
  • Sunstone (3)
  • A how-to workshop on what it is like to work for the RPG industry.
  • David Boop, Scott Woodard, Josh Vogt, Gibbitt Rhys-Jones

Running Petite Conventions

  • Fri Nov 18 8:00pm-9:00pm
  • Medford (LL1)
  • Advantages and pit falls from experienced, creative con runners.
  • Gibbitt Rhys-Jones, Stephen Couchman, Lupa, Julie McGowan

Handling Sexuality with Dignity

  • Fri Nov 18 10:00pm-11:00pm
  • Willamette (L)
  • Writing sex scenes so that everyone can hold their heads (or whatever) high afterward.
  • Peter Wacks, Gibbitt Rhys-Jones, Debra Stansbury, Peter Jones



Limits of Inclusivity

  • Sat Nov 19 10:00am-11:00am
  • Columbia (L)
  • In fandom we try to be inclusive, but some behaviors do not deserve to be included. How can we promote a welcoming con culture without making someone feel unwelcome?
  • Josh Boykin, Gibbitt Rhys-Jones, Elizabeth Adams, Andrew Nisbet

Social Media: time suck or revolution?

  • Sat Nov 19 11:00am-12:00pm
  • Willamette (L)
  • Social media plays an increasingly major role in world events. Some governments have turned off the internet. What role will social media play in future events?
  • Rob Wynne, Gibbitt Rhys-Jones, Creede Lambard, Andrew Mayer, Ari Goldstein

Using Outdated Game Systems

  • Sat Nov 19 1:00pm-2:00pm
  • Salon A (LL1)
  • What do you do when your system thinks the singularity happened in 1990? Is it still worth playing?
  • Gibbitt Rhys-Jones, Ari Goldstein, Brian Hunt, Scott Woodard

Paranoia Panel

  • Sat Nov 19 4:00pm-5:00pm
  • Sunstone (3)
  • What if Mulder was right? Our favorite conspiracies and conspiracy books. Which ones might lean toward the truth, and which ones are way out there?
  • Ari Goldstein, Gibbitt Rhys-Jones, Andrew Nisbet

Tabletop: Recent Favorites

  • Sat Nov 19 7:00pm-8:00pm
  • Salon A (LL1)
  • Tired of settling for Catan? We’ll discuss our favorite tabletop games of recent vintage.
  • Anthony Pryor, Dale Ivan Smith, Wendy Wagner, Gibbitt Rhys-Jones, Alexandre Muñiz

Star Trek: Momentum

  • Sat Nov 19 9:00pm-10:00pm
  • Columbia (L)
  • Even while the studios were trying to decide how to best leverage the franchise for more dollars from new and younger audiences, impatient fans and writers have kept moving things forward. Things took on a life of their own when fans started publishing their own stories, and this in part led to studio-authorized books, histories, and storylines (there are now well over a hundred). And, of course, this being the digital age, there are now fan *films* on youtube. In this panel we discuss this progression, and whether it’s helped or hindered the franchise. And, yes, we could hardly discuss this without offering up opinions on some successes and duds, be they fanfics, authorized novels, or fan films, so be prepared to discuss your picks.
  • Robert McGown, Rick Lindsley, Gibbitt Rhys-Jones, David Bara


  • Sat Nov 19 10:00pm-11:00pm
  • Salon A (LL1)
  • This paneled discussion will explore some of the forms that consensually non-monogamous relationships can take, as well as their strengths and weaknesses. Solo, partnered, friends-with-benefits, family, tribe, pod, line marriage, open marriage, webs, polyfidelity and more will be covered. Recommended local and national resources will also be addressed.
  • Jamie Bear, Theresa Reed, Lupa, Sean Robinson, Gibbitt Rhys-Jones



Gender and Gaming

  • Sun Nov 20 11:00am-12:00pm
  • Willamette (L)
  • Does a gamer’s gender matter? How to play with friends of all genders, regardless of your own
  • Rob Wynne, Gibbitt Rhys-Jones, Nick Dixon, Brian Hunt

The Changing Face of the Computer Interface

  • Sun Nov 20 12:00pm-1:00pm
  • Sunstone (3)
  • Carpal tunnel is killing me! What advances are being made in user interfaces? When will they come out? Or are they already here, and if so, why can’t I get hold of them?
  • Stephen Savitzky, Gibbitt Rhys-Jones, Frank Hayes, Jeff Soesbe, Matt Huntley, Matt Huntley

Other Upcoming Conventions

  • Sun Nov 20 2:00pm-3:00pm
  • Salon A (LL1)
  • Those involved with various conventions or convention bids will be given a brief opportunity (10 to 15 minutes) to speak and answer questions from the audience.
  • Riona Abhainn, Stephen Couchman, Anthony Pryor, Gibbitt Rhys-Jones, Flori Lima-Steele